We’ve all been there – a new year is about to begin and we are fervently making “new year resolutions” with nothing less than good intentions. Whether it’s going to the gym, eating healthier, reducing plastic usage, self-improvement, starting a long-planned project, or reconnecting with old friends, we all start with the intention of accomplishing our goals — the actual success rate of completion however, can be a different matter and is often disappointing.
There’s a saying that goes “the road to hell is paved with good intentions.” No worries, this is not going to be about hell, but one of the meanings Wikipedia attributes to this quote is that “individuals may have the intention to undertake good actions but nevertheless fail to take action. This inaction may be due to procrastination, laziness or other subversive vice. As such, the saying is an admonishment that a good intention is meaningless unless followed through.” Sheesh, talk about a slap in the face! “Procrastination, laziness or other subversive vice” doesn’t sit quite well, does it? However, while this may be true in some cases, I’m willing to bet that this does not always apply when it comes to New Year resolutions. Here’s why:
I believe that one of the reasons New Year resolutions are repeatedly neglected or abandoned is that they are often made under pressure and/or for the wrong reasons… This pressure might be due to our feeling “obligated” to come up with New Year resolutions since in some parts of the world and cultures, it has become somewhat of a tradition that people may follow, simply because other members of their family or peers do. The pressure can also be self-imposed, but as with anything that pertains to personal development, change and growth, nothing can happen without our full consent, motivation, focus, energy, and engagement. You may think that you “really want to change / add / reduce / cut out this or that (add New Year resolution here) into / from your life,” but it may not be the right time for you to integrate this fabulous new goal into your life and, adding to the dilemma, you may not have taken the required steps to be able to successfully work towards, achieve, and maintain this goal.
Goals, along with their anticipated achievements and successes, require more than a simple declaration. Rather, in order to achieve its full impact (i.e. completion, achievement, success, etc.), goal-setting needs an understanding of the mechanics involved, which includes a few more simple but powerful steps once your intention (declaration) has been made clear. No need to feel the guilt often associated with New Year resolution shortcomings (or failures) because like many, you most likely have set your New Year goals with good and honest intentions and have done your best to achieve your desired results. Once the missing ingredients are added, achieving your goals will be easier than ever. In Visible Reach uses several techniques and tools that can help you set and successfully realise your New Year resolution(s) and life goals in general – contact us to inquire!
Here’s to setting goals and self-improvement targets year-round, using effective techniques, at your own pace, and hats off to those of you who have and will successfully achieve and maintain their New Year resolutions!
Every day is worth celebrating,